September 15, 2010

Tell me

I was wondering…

If there will ever come a time,

That when someone announces a pregnancy,

I won’t immediately unsubscribe from their blog…

It hurts too much.

18 comments:

  1. Oh love, I am so sorry. I love you.

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  2. That totally stinks. We tried for 2.5 years for # three and I saw countless people get pregnant before me.
    Now that we have her, I just cackle in delight that someone else will suffer with a newborn.
    It's all your perspective.
    BUT, people who would talk, and talk, and talk about being pregnant... I'd unsub.

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  3. Hi friend, I'm sorry. Some things always hurt.....

    -kristy

    (P.S. I know you are in shock that I'm commenting, but Angie told me that I should just do it, and let you know I'm here reading, and I love your blog, and I think you're totally cool, and I am probably breaking some unwritten blog rule about leaving a comment that is waaay tooo long. But, I love you, and I hope you forgive my breaking of the rules, but it is my very first comment ever!) :)

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  4. Yes, there will...

    And then we shall go Egg-ing and toilet paper their entire site!

    Ha!

    Cuz that's what friends do! ;)

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  5. Here's my experience: if I didn't unsubscribe, initially, it felt like rough grit sandpaper on my heart. But slowly, that became less coarse, and the happiness for my friend started to seep through.

    Which doesn't erase being sad or heartbroken. But is a kind of effective equalizer.

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  6. Yes! Well, mostly. I have 5 (living) kids, and the oldest was 6 when the last one was born - but I'd also had a still-birth and several miscarriages in that time frame. I got pregnant easily, but my body gave out long before I was ready to quit having kids.

    Now that my baby is almost 8, I still struggle with that desire to have a larger family, but I will say that it gets a little easier when I see how nice it is to sleep through the night without any extra guests in my bed, how quiet everyone is at church (and that they can get themselves ready - oh the freedom!), and when they can take care of themselves so I can sleep in. Oh, and let's not forget that everyone can do their potty business without my help! :)

    In the end, I say unsubscribe if it makes you feel better. This is a tough emotional battle you're waging, and you need to do whatever you can to get yourself through until time can help ease the pain (even if it's just a little).

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  7. Sending love and hugs your way. xoxo

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  8. what happened? I'm a new reader. Just wondering. If you don't feel like talking about it, that's okay too!

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  9. I'm sorry. I feel that way too, except with my friends in real life more than anything. It's like I say to myself, "Well there they go, have a nice life". And even though I have my one son, (thank you shrively insides) it still hurts when people have more. I don't know if it ever goes away, or just will fade with time?. Anyway...

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  10. I totally get it.

    I'm so NOT OK with Moxie being the last.

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  11. I'm sorry, Caroline. I really am.

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  12. I get it. I do the same thing, and it's been five years. I still can't deal with it. Loves to you.

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  13. I think it lessens with time, but it never seems to go away. At least, it's that way with me too. Pregnancy and newborns tend to hurt the worst for me. I often resurface as a friend when their kids are older.

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  14. I can't have kids. I don't have any, and I won't ever have any of my own. My entire life all I have wanted to be is a mom, but I now know that I can't. I do, however, have a step-son that is with us every other week. It wasn't an easy thing, but I have thrown myself into being a mom to him. Sure, he has his mom, but when he is here, I am a mother figure to him. Over time, I have found that the joy I get from recognizing what a blessing my step son is to me far out weighs the pain. It took work to get to where I am at now. I had to make the decision to overcome the pain.

    I can't pretend to understand how you feel because I know that even in similar circumstances, things are different for everyone. But possibly if you focus on your children that you do have and count your blessings then you won't think of the pain so much' and eventually it may subside. I'm so sorry that it hurts so terribly now, but there is hope to overcome pain. That's why Christ suffered, to help us through our suffering.

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  15. I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but found you as I was surfing the blogosphere. Do what you need to do to cope. xoxo
    Cindy

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  16. Yes, eventually the pain isn't so sharp. For me it's become more of a twinge over the years. And when I get sad or feel hurt because I never got to grow my own babies I face it and then pick up and go on. But time will soften the heartache. I don't think there is much else to do but continue living and loving and let time do it's thing.

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  17. http://myspoiledeggs.blogspot.com/

    have you ever been here? she deals with the same thing.

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  18. I'm so sorry, Caroline.
    Yes, unsub if you need to. Funny how the very thing one person wants can be such a difficult situation for another person.

    You know I love ya.

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